So I am convinced there is a trifecta of things that cause me angst/stress during the day. Perhaps you may think this is job, home, traffic or something trivial... perhaps a year ago it might have been train delays, roomates and air travel..
The trifecta is in fact three things that if I could get them all under full control and maintain control of them all other stresses would slough way and be much more manageable. (or so I believe).
The trifecta contain the following
1) Food- the eating or attempting to cook of good healthy food and the avoiding of the pizza and things that make me go MMMMMMMM..
2) Exercise- the maintaining a schedule of doing it more than once weekly and being consistent and not quitting so easily.
3) Money- to work harder at saving and not wasting my money on junk food or useless crap around the apartment or life. To be a better checkbook balancer and budgeter so that I have a nice cushy savings and follow all the Suze Orman rules to better finances.
I feel like overall I can usually have one or maybe two going well, but I don't think there was ever a time when I had all three without my parents making my meals and driving me to practice and not having any of my own money. Independence comes responsibility I suppose but how do you balance the trifecta in order to be healthy, fruitful and happy! Yikes.
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Yeah those are good ones!! It can be really hard after a tough day not to want to reward yourself with food you enjoy. And the food that sounds the best is often unhealthy food- so I feel your pain!
I think my Trifecta are:
1. LACK OF SLEEP- getting less sleep than you need, and waking up at all ours of the night really does wear on you after a while. I can go quite a while before it really breaks me down, but even before that point it does effect the quality of my interactions with Michael and the baby. So I'd like more control over that.
2. LACK OF ME TIME- I feel so much more energy when I get a little time by myself to have a glass of wine in the bath, or even go to the book or grocery store alone. I can blast some music, get perspective. Without enough me time I start to get punchy, and short tempered. Need more control over that too!
3.BABY WORRY- I spend too much time worrying about the one million things that could hurt/upset Molly. Everything from "did we baby proof the house enough?" to " what about her first broken heart??" - it's exhausting. I need to get it under control:)
Good luck with your stressors D! If you come up with any good solutions let me know! I could always eat better, and exercise more, and be more frugal! Love ya!
Shan you are OOC (out of control!) I cant believe you worry about Molly's first heartbreak..that is adorable and stressful all rolled into one!
but life is stressful huh? Bleh!
I feel your pain D! The money part I have pretty much given up on for a bit. We do what we can and are able to pay bills (not much savings and in lovely PA, being a state worker this year may mean working for a month and not getting paid...urgh).
With food and exercise, I have found that both take a great deal of patience with me. I have to be the most kind to myself with both. As soon as I start hating on myself for not keeping up with one or the other, it's almost a guarantee that it'll be harder to continue and then maintain. I have started making Saturday my "eat stupid" day. LOL. I know that I have one day a week that I can have that pizza or ice cream or whatever (in moderation still...but I can have it). It takes the edge off the rest of the week. And for exercise I took it really slow to start and added things in as I felt ready. I have a yoga DVD that I started with and was able to keep up with, then hit the treadmill (4 min jog, 1 min walk last July...a year later I'm able to jog 30 minutes without a walk break...but it took me a year to get there). Also, now Dave and I run short races together...not for speed...just to finish them. Having that race coming up really helps me stick to my schedule. It's a lot like studying for a big exam (one that you can't cram for lol).
The same kind of pacing myself with food can work, too. Some days will be better than others and that's ok. We try to work on making 2 totally healthy meals a week, and then add more as we find recipes that we really like. Spices help a lot! Farmers markets sell wonderful fresh herbs and you can play with them for flavoring food. The thing that really is helping me with food is checking the sugar content of just about everything. I am fully addicted to sugar and beating that is a constant struggle. But when I have 3 lower sugar days in a row I start to feel better (the first 2 I am mean haha).
Thanks for sharing your trifecta! I'm with you...hope this was a little helpful. It sounds like you and I are in a similar place trying to balance food, exercise, and money.
And Shan...I imagine I would have the very same worries and struggles with a little one as beautiful as Miss Molly :) You're a wonderful Mommy and you're doing a great job! I have no words of wisdom for getting more sleep...if I lived closer I would babysit so you can have some Shan time :) I think a Texas vacation is in order at some point :)
well at least your list is a good one girlfriend!
(what i mean is at least you care about keeping balanced in exercise, eating and budgeting!) FYI- you told me at some point if I wanted to save money, before I buy anthing, (i think you referenced suzy orman too lol) to say to myself "do i really need this" so thats what i've been doing and its helped alot actually, cause most things i want, i just don't need. also, the exercise thing that helps me, since i've been going to the gym again lately, (and the other day i was actually tired) is, when your running or working out, think of it, not as something you have to do, but as "your time" to think, to meditate, to let your mind wander. that helps me to want to run/exercise.
MY TRIFECTA -
1 - spending enough time at home. With school, work, yoga, lealu and other things outside of being home, I'm always worried that I'm not spending enough time at home to just be and relax and because of that its taking me longer than I'd expect for that comfortable feeling of home (even though its come, it just took awhile).
2- spending more time with Martin. Again, with work, school, yoga, cleaning, I'm always wanting to spend more time with martin. The only time I don't feel like this is on Monday, after we've had a nice weekend together.
3- money/budgeting. Even with the question, do I really need this, I find myself always about fifty bucks short every month andI have to dip into my school budgeted money, so when the next semester comes, I have to skimp somewhere else.
good blog! its nice to put what i worry about down on paper, or in this case the screen:)
Laura-I am soo proud and inspired by your ability to run for 30 minutes. I'm trying to get myself into shape again and my long term goal is the Turkey Trot which is a race on Thanksgiving. Its far enough away that I slowly build up to that and just do my best when the day comes around.
and as for Nikki's suggestion about using workout time to meditate or use it at 'me time'... I was trying to explain this to a colleague of mine that the main thing that gets in the way of me running long distances is my own head cause the whole time I'm running my brain is screaming 'when can you stop, dont forget to breate, 30 seconds more, youre almost there'.. instead of just running along and thinking about something else my body panics or something! hahaha
So I've been doing a lot of watching and reading Suze Orman, and your totally right Nikki, I would say to you 100 times when we'd go to craft stores or any random lotiony herbal place that you could find,,,,,that what you want and what you NEED are totally different. Its so hard because we are all so good at convincing ourselves that wants are also needs but they really aren't.
So anyway I've been reading Suze and watching her show and while I'm not scared about the financial world I feel like we should all be tightening our purse strings severely and she wants everyone to have no credit card debt (which Kevin and I don't) and also an 8 month emergency saving in case of unemployment or,,, well emergency... (which neither of us have and I am very very FAR away from where as he is closer).
anyway so the financial area of trifecta is really something that is eroding my brain every moment. I hate having no net, and I also feel sad that once I get a net that I will then have to start saving for other things that I want in my future (like a house/wedding/vacations etc)... and it will be like 15 years before any of these things are achievable with financial intelligence. Its a tough row but I want to be on the end where I have a big large net, and I have 20% deposit on a house when I'm ready to buy one (not soon),, and that I'm not using my net for other non-need things yet.
its stressy..
Laura- I like your idea of a day free of restricted food (with moderation) the hard part is not letting holidays or festivals or birthday or celebrations validate the day free occuring more than once weekly! Plus I love pizza.... love love LOVE it..
Nikki-I think the key to having more time at home with Martin and lealu is not so much creating more hours in the day, but making the time you have good Quality. Where you guys are focused on eachother or the lil puppy,, and not doing 100 things at the same time and multitasking the important people out of your life. I struggle with this one myself and Kevin and I always have to stop and slow down and say 'no tv, no nothing... lets just talk'. Its a little bit of a withdrawl from all the other stuff going on but i think its important for it to be quality, not necessarily quantity.
Thanks for the comments guys..
DVR the Suze Orman show for more info and guidance.. I'm also reading her 'action plan for 2009' book which is amazingly helpful and really helping me set the lines straight with things that i want and need and where to find more to put into savings.
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thanks D thats good advice! but i have one more thing to ask about lol and if you can fix this one i will bow down to you lol:) so its not actually about the quality, when we do spend time together and we have dinner or are hanging out, I love time hanging out with him btw so maybe this is just me wanting more of something i like, but we turn off the tv (i make sure we do that) but it really comes down to the quantity of time because if we have so little actual time to spend and i have all these other things to do as well, the quality gets diminished just because not enough of the quantity. this has alot to do with finishing the lakehouse and being in school. for example, i get home on school nights at 10,martin is sleeping cause he wakes up at 5, during a work day i get home at 6:30 and he's home early at 2:30 and so he does what he wants until i get home and then i wind down a bit and we spend some time butit just never feels like enough. sometimes i think with this one i just have to change my life a bit. like not have yoga class, (even though i love yoga class) or something like that? what do you think?
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