Thursday, November 19, 2009
Lean on me Part II
"no one can fill those of your needs that you wont let show!
So last nite at the end of one of my fave shows GLEE (shocking I know), they sang the song in the previous blog. I tried to find a video of that part of the episode but Fox wouldn't let me and so I settled for the music instead.
When I was watching, this particular line really shot through me as something I never heard so clearly before.
I think we as humans, but especially women do not like to let our needs show. We like to put everyone else first before ourselves, and inevitably our cups runneth over and not in a good way,, in that "I think I just flooded the basement way". We don't like to show the needs we have that others can assist. There is a lot of negative personal connotations with seeing a psychologist or talking about your personal problems with others, and that same barrier keeps us from our own healing and positive psychology.
Sometimes we think we're the only ones to solve our problems,,, and we're wrong..
and also conversely,, sometimes we think we cannot do anything to solve our problems, its everyone else's fault, , and we're wrong there also.
So where is the balance,, between opening ourselves up to others so that they can empart their knowledge and healing, and also knowing when its intrinsically something only you can change.
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Thats a good question and I think different for everyone. I love to talk about things with my girlfriends because I think we are all in the same boat sort of and its nice to hear how others feel and say how I feel. I guess I like the exchange that happens, and it also at the same time helps me feel less alone. Just the other night my sister called me and we were talking about family stuff and how things are changing, and its nice to have someone there who understands the crazyiness of our family:) I think girlfriends are like therapy!! :)
Michael and I just watched this episode last night on the DVR- it was a really good one. Love this show!!
Good question- I guess I usually listen to advice from others, and then put it through my own filter- and see how it applies to me. Listen to lots of info, take it with a grain of salt:)
Miss you!!
I guess I kinda meant that I can want to be healthier and thinner and my friends and I can talk about it for hours, but unless I personally make a change in my eating and exercising habits talk is cheap.
but then there are others that blame processed food and they don't make enough money to buy organic or whatever...
Like some people don't show their needs cuz they dont see them as things that they caused... and others show their needs but dont do anything to create change.. either way..
your both right,,, friends help advise and filter thru the good and bad suggestions sometimes.
Oh sorry- guess I misunderstood what you were saying! I think I see what your saying now. It is hard to make a big change in life, and perhaps it's human nature to find things outside of ones self to blame for it. But it's great that your aware of that possibility- it probably helps you not to fall into that trap.
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