I think facebook has brought me to a whole level of new envy. I believe its because I'm a Scorpio so I tend to be very intense about relationships and interactions. Facebook has 'in a sense' let me into the lives of those that I have various levels of frienship with and allowed me a glance into their wedding day, or honeymoon, or birthday, or their trip home to see their family.
To be fair, I'm sure my pictures would also reflect on my life and family/friends. I'm sure they reflect that I have a great but fully ridiculous family that I cherish and love, and friends that bring out the silly and joyeous in myself also. Its possible that it reflects my travels to various locations and the escapades that ensue.
So where does the envy come into play? When I see those friends of mine who are 5 or 10 years younger than me who are showing me the house they've built and are now decorating, when they show me the wedding they had at the most expensive place with like 500 of their closest friends, when they catalog their travels to italy,ireland, japan, alaska wherever, and it is as fabulous and beautiful as I would expect and hope to someday see it to be.
So you might say (as I have said to self), "Its awesome that you get to share these experiences with others and you do not walk in your shoes so you cannot determine what decisions they made that lead them to this vacation/house/weekend/day. You should feel lucky and blessed by things you have and not the things you do not.
To which I say repeatedly BAH!!!BAH BAH!!!.
All true things!
I am lucky, I am blessed..
and if there were not things to strive for in life then what would be the point!?
But that does not make me any less envious of those who can travel freely without the impending doom I feel in my stomach when the mention of an 'emergency savings' is presented... OR Heaven Help me the discussion of 'student loans'... Oy!!
So I'm going to do my best to keep a positive spin on others decisions and be more positive in my own decision making, so that I can work towards my long and short term goals in my own time and not let the green eyed monster make me nuttier than I already am.
But I'm pretty sure its entirely facebooks' fault and none of my own!:)
hehe
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Great blog D, thanks for your honesty! in all honestly sometimes I get annoyed at people who are rich and don't have to live with their in laws (:)) and then there are beautiful moments where I realize how special my life is because of them. I just read this morning that we should be grateful for problems and suffering in our lives because problems and suffering actually teach us so much. Some people will always have more than you and some will have less than you, but that is not important! the important thing is that you are so special and that your special individual journey is for you to walk on and experience and to live so that your soul gets what it needs, not what someone else needs. And you know...when you do get to go on one of those vacations or have your beautiful wedding day, it will mean that much more to you!!! Sending a great big hug to an amazing wonderful woman:)
Totally true Nikki, I actually do feel very blessed and I appreciate what I have daily, but that doesnt subside the green eyed monster all the time!)
I can totally understand what your saying. I have bouts of the same thing. That said, I try to keep in mind that you are only getting the good stuff about a persons life from facebook! I mean they are NOT posting pictures from when they and their boyfriend got in a horrible fight and were throwing things! they are not posting about their new home being foreclosed on! They are not posting about their children were just arrested for arson! You get the picture!
lol. Those are kinda extreme examples, but the point is, that no one's life is as simple or uncomplicates as it may appear in pictures. One thing I have realized throug the years is that until you know someones WHOLE story- it's a risky thing to envy them. It is very often the people that seem to have it the most together, that are falling apart inside, or are dealing with some tragic event.
I get jealous too. So not being preachy, just telling you what I tell myself:)
I TOTALLY agree Shan,,I 'untag' pictures that are not flattering or dont upload things that reflect non-desirable moments.
I guess the real truth is not that I am envious of the person's life, but rather of the steps that they are able to take either with a carefree 'lets burn through our savings' attitude or with a 'i saved for 100 years and now im using it', or a 'my parents paid for school so I can keep all of my paycheck as income'.
Its not that I cannot achieve those same vacations, days etc.. its just that I'd like them to be attainable now, and not in 10 or 20 years., And I know that the carefree attitude will never happen to me so the only option is saving and pinching and its such a downer that it would be much nicer to have the options the others in the picture do (even thought they probably dont!!).
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you're wonderful friends said everything. And to make your day better... I'm jealous of you! You have a great job, and the person you are in love has no kids, so no drama, no ex-wife, etc... but like your friend said, everyone has their own path... oh, and I'm jealous of your beautiful blue eyes too! hahaha.
lucy you are so sweet, I do covet my blue eyes but I would love to have a precious little sara (i cant believe she's ONE!) in my life someday and I know its not my path just yet but I'm patient,, plus now I can learn from all you guys!:)
hugs lucy lu
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Oh yeah- and to continue on Lucy's track- you are a doctor!!! Who isn't jealous of that?!?!
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