Read this article.... Let's discuss...
So I can not recall ever having been spanked in my life, nor can I recall my siblings undergoing these things. I know my mom and dad were and are very 'ahead of their time' when it comes to child development and parenting, so this is not surprising.
I wonder sometimes,, if I think of my friends if based on their current child-rearing or their behaviors if I could identify those that were spanked or not. Having known/knowing many of their parents now I can't imagine them disciplining in any other way and wouldnt' be totally shocked if they did it now.
So what do you think,, most of ya'll out there are mommies.. what do you think of this study and its effects on anger, behavior and even academics!
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It all seems completely logical to me! Children are like sponges. They absorb everything we feed them and then regurgitate it. It makes sense (to me) that by spanking them they are more likely to lash out physically as well.
I think you should check with your mom on this:)
- I was spanked occasionally as a child. It was not excessive and was only in cases of last resort. I barely remember it, but I know it did happen.
-As of right now, I do not think I will ever spank. However, a wise mother of several kids once told me that all kids are different and what will work with some, wont work with others. So that said, I do reserve the right to never say never. But in all honesty I would be pretty shocked if if I ever felt comfortable with spanking- in general there just seems to be so many other ways to discipline I don't see the need for using something that could cause harm. Also, I know Michael does not believe in it- and we would both need to agree. And since I don't really forsee us both agreeing to that at any given time...it's pretty unlikely.
Ok- as I was writing this, I looked over at the pumpkin. Nope couldnt do it- could never hit that sweet baby- even lightly. Just couldnt happen:)
So there ya go....:)
i didnt read the article, but gather what it is saying because ive read a million articles about spanking and violence.
I dont disagree with that.
I use spanking when they didnt listen and put themselves in danger (like running into the road.) I think some people do it because they dont want to put effort into disciplining.
mmmm good question!!! I remember being spanked as a child, but like Shan, it was only during last resort. My dad never spanked though...I don't know if it was the way they planned it or not, but my mom was the more disciplinary one...but at the same time, she was also the one who was well I guess more parental. My dad was the parent who we had fun with ie went to great adventure, or other parks, went to the pool, got candy from etc. I think spankingi s good for discpline only when it is absolutely needed. Honestly though I think if we do spank, Martin will have to be the one to do it. I agree with Shan that every child is different. I didn't really need spanking too much - just watching my sister get soap in her mouth curbed my desire to say bad words:) (or at least say them around my parents) and my brother wasn't disciplined really...he was the only italian boy in my dads side of the family so he was pretty much given anything he wanted and if he didn't get it, he would have a tantrum. He has his tantrum moments still today. I remember when I was little I was in the bath with my sis and I pee'ed in tub, I lied, said I didn't and the folks found out, I was sent to bed without a snack and I cried and cried. you would've thought I did something so horrible how upset I was! (and I still remember it lol)
I guess it is one of those subjects that will go back and forth on the spectrum forever, huh? each study "undoing" the next. Me? I was spanked. Survived, but barely.
I can definitely see how in some kids it would cause agressive behaviors, etc., but I also believe that a swift spanking in the right setting, is appropriate discipline.
I was spanked on very few occassions and I have spanked on very few occassions as well.
Whether one spanks or not, the rule of "never touch a child in anger" should apply. Even if you do spank and believe in this discipline method, it shouldn't be to vent your frustrations but to teach say child that A=B. Kids can absorve all the feelings and frustrations you demonstrate. If you are doing this because you're just frustrated, or angry, that is what they are going to learn. And that is how they are going to communicate. On the other hand, at my house I was spanked at several ocasions and remember vividly. My mom was an angry person and I had marks on my legs from a horse's whip. It might be why I don't like her today. I dunno. It's not how I want to run my household, so I try teaching and disciplining other ways.
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